Resigning from a job can be likened to breaking up with someone: there’s a level of anxiety and apprehension before going through with it.

The lead-up can make you nervous and there’s a level of dread as the time approaches. In addition, the whole experience can be made even more daunting. depending on your boss’s response to the situation.

We’ve outlined the three most common responses to help you navigate your resignation. 

The understanding boss:

An understanding boss is like a partner who knows you’re destined for better things and knows you’ve reached the natural conclusion of your relationship. In this instance, your boss is likely to be cool, calm and collected. They’re kind and accept your decision maturely. This boss is insightful, as they usually know you’ve reached your limits. In many ways, they can sense a resignation coming. In response, they’re friendly, considerate and wish you all the best. It’s the type of break-up you can feel good about. They’re happy for you and nobody’s feelings are hurt. Happy days. 

The clingy boss:

This boss is a bit like a partner who doesn’t want to let you go. This type of boss is reluctant to accept your resignation and will try anything to keep you in your job. They’ll offer you more money, give you a car park and maybe even a new office – and it might work. If you’re confident in your decision, you’ll stick to your guns, no matter how enticing their offer may be. Eventually, the clingy boss will come around. 

The in denial boss:

The in denial boss is like the partner who doesn’t handle it well. Sometimes, they even refuse to acknowledge that you’re moving on. When you tell them about your resignation, they give you a blank stare or, even worse, they ignore you. When they eventually speak, they say something like ‘okay’. Yes, this has happened. Don’t let your decision be swayed by their response. Listen to your intuition and give them a few days to mellow out. 

In our professional opinion, there’s one way that a boss should respond when an employee resigns: with gratitude and acceptance. Yes, they might not be happy about it, but there’s no need to make someone feel guilty. Resigning takes courage and is quite emotional – just like a break-up. We’re all human, so it’s natural to be conscious of other people’s feelings. If you’ve made your decision to resign, be confident, grateful and show appreciation to your boss when you’re doing so. No matter how you respond, you can leave the interaction with your head held high.